WHEN BAD RELATIONSHIPS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE
ESCAPING AND HEALING FROM TOXIC ENTANGLEMENTS
Four Week Online Workshop
Starting Saturday, January 16th, 2021
Many people stay in relationships they know they should leave but just can’t. After the fact they often wonder what kept them there. What was it about the lover, the spouse, the parent, the sibling, the cousin, the friend, the colleague, the boss, the employee, the religious figure, the cult leader or the therapist that held them so powerfully? This is an important question to answer both to keep yourself from making the same mistake again and to recover from the damage giving yourself over to someone toxic can cause.
For some people it’s just hard to admit that they’ve made a mistake. Others feel that the person needs them too much for them to leave. Or they feel that they are the needy one and that only this particular person can meet their needs. Sometimes people live with the idea that only they see the “potential” of this person and it’s their responsibility to nurture that potential and make it flourish. And sometimes people are actually threatened with harm that will come to them or the person they’re trying to leave if they go.
Whether you’ve actually broken free from a toxic relationship or are still stuck in one this workshop can help you. These are some if the things we’ll be exploring:
Early warnings - what can you tell from a first encounter? How to recognize a potentially toxic partner.
Sliding down the slippery slope. How to know when your self begins to disappear.
Internal discord. The arguments you have with yourself that keep you trapped.
Exit strategies. How to get out safely - and for good.
Assessing the damage. What parts of you were submerged or compromised and how can they be reclaimed and revitalized?
All sessions will be recorded.
Anyone taking an online workshop is eligible for a private one-hour session at a reduced rate of $100.
WHEN: Saturdays, noon - 1:30 PM, Pacific Time, 1/16, 1/23, 1/30, 2/6
WHERE: On Zoom
COST: $160 payable by Zelle, PayPal or check.
TO REGISTER OR FOR MORE INFORMATION: email jamtoday@juliemotz.com; call 415 256-2528 or text 415 342-1833.
About The Teacher - Julie Motz is an internationally known healer and author. She was the first person to bring energy healing into the operating room, working side by side with Dr. Mehmet Oz in heart transplant surgery. She has taught workshops at Esalen, Kripalu, Omega and lectured at Stanford, Columbia and Dartmouth medical schools. Her book, Hands Of Life, has been published in five languages.
We all grew up in families where certain things - and even certain relatives - just weren’t discussed. We were all told stories or given explanations that if examined more closely - which we somehow knew not to do - just didn’t make sense. In our bodies we may have felt that something was “off” but we didn’t see or hear anyone else questioning or challenging things so we told ourselves we must be wrong. And some of us grew up in families where dishonest, violent or dangerous things were happening openly but we were told to “keep it in the family,” often with direct threats attached or scary tales of what would happen to us or the family if the outside world knew.
A family wanting to “protect” itself or its children by obscuring or denying uncomfortable truths may seem innocent enough. But in fact growing up this way, with a dissonance between what we observe and feel and what we are being told and are allowed to tell can have severely damaging effects on both our personal and professional lives. It can inhibit our own ability to tell the truth, the relevant truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. It can also make it difficult for us to know when we are being lied to or when important information is being withheld from us. In short it can make us vulnerable to deceptions, betrayal and scams.
Developing as children in a family where things are being obscured or denied can affect us physically as well. This physical damage intensifies when we repeat the pattern of truth distortion ourselves or are victimized by others doing it. The fact is that the body hates lies - and it doesn’t buy any of our excuses for telling them, going along with them or being fooled by them. It reacts negatively when we lie, are being lied about or lied to. Our breathing becomes more shallow, denying cells of precious oxygen. Our heart rate speeds up unnaturally. Certain muscles contract and may eventually cramp. Our digestion is disrupted. And the effort to keep the truth the body knows from getting to the brain can exhaust us or cause injury “accidents” because our awareness is focused elsewhere.
In this four week online course we will:
Search our family history for myths, secrets and lies and see what shame, embarrassment, guilt or humiliation we feel about sharing or exposing them and how we might overcome that.
Look at situations in which we have felt compelled to wander from the truth, see how that affects both our bodies and our ability to think clearly and explore what would happen if we were completely honest in those situations.
See how being with different people affects our ability to tell the truth.
Examine instances in which we have been lied to, deceived or betrayed and see how these connect to our family history.
Learn techniques for determining if we are lying to ourselves or if we are being lied to.
Discover what happens when we think about an unpleasant truth, when we speak it and when we act it out.
Imagine life in a completely truthful world.
Anyone taking the course can have a one-hour healing session with me at a reduced rate of $100.
All sessions will be recorded in case you have to miss a class.
WHEN: TBA
WHERE: On Zoom
COST: $160
To register or for more information call me at 415 256-2528, text me at 415 342-1833 or email me at jamtoday@juliemotz.com
In these tense and difficult times many people are turning even more than usual to food for emotional comfort. For some this is an easy, fun and manageable way of giving themselves a special treat. But for others it triggers a relationship to food that feels out of control and frightening in its compulsive force.
If you are someone troubled by the way you’ve been eating, I’d like to help.
I’m offering a 4-week online course through Zoom addressing the root causes of emotional eating. Classes will be an hour and a half long, Saturdays noon - 1:30 pm Pacific Time. Start date to be announced.
The cost is $160. You can pay by check, PayPal or Zelle. Contact me by email, text or phone for payment details.
People who register for the online course will also be able to do a one hour individual healing session with me at a reduced cost of $100.
All classes will be recorded
Here’s the material we’ll be covering:
What is the difference between physical hunger and emotional hunger? How can you distinguish between the two? Where do specific food cravings come from and how can they be soothed without overeating or eating in an unhealthy way?
What are the emotions that overeating can suppress? How can you learn to experience these emotions safely?
\What are your earliest experiences of being fed? How do they affect your current relationship to food? How can your current eating patterns be changed by repatterning feeding in the womb and in the crib?
What triggers the impulse to binge? How can you love yourself through a binge and turn it into a learning and healing experience? How can you find the healthy appetite inside you and learn to trust it?
“Time and tide wait for no man.” Geoffrey Chaucer
"Pleasure and action make the hours seem short." William Shakespeare
Covid 19 has given many of us time (in some cases more than we would like) to think about things - including the nature of time itself and how we move through it. Are you happy with the pace of your life? Would you like to change it?
Many people feel that they never have enough time to do all the things they want or need to do. Others try to cheat time by procrastinating - only doing things at the last minute. Still others feel they can only get things done if they have a deadline.
Some people are always late - frustrating other people who are obsessively punctual. And some take so long to act on a decision that important opportunities pass them by.
It would be great to think of the perfect comeback the moment you are verbally attacked or insulted but often it doesn’t come to us for hours or days afterwards.
And then there is the phenomenon of “screen time” - hours slipping away on social media, video games, streaming movies and tv shows, Youtube videos, endless news updates. There is also the uneasy feeling of giving control of your time over to other people.
Time is a powerful but not well understood force in human existence. In this course you’ll look at your relationship to time (and to timing), how it evolved and how it can be changed. You’ll see how you can alter your management and experience of time, dissolve anxiety and guilt and bring increased freedom, pleasure, productivity and creative exuberance into your life.
Some questions we’ll be exploring:
Is there a “cure” for chronic lateness? For procrastination?
Is there always a “right” time to do something and if so how can you know when that is?
How do you value your time compared to the time of others?
How can you stay present when you are criticized or judged and respond in a timely manner?
What is the relationship of time to love?
How can you move from time scarcity to time abundance?
WHEN: TBA
WHERE: On Zoom
COST: $160 payable by PayPal, Zelle or check
For more information and to register email jamtoday@juliemotz.com, call 415 256-2528 or text 415 342-1833
All sessions will be recorded.
Anyone taking the online course can do a one-hour private healing session at a reduced rate of $100.
About The Teacher - Julie Motz is an internationally known healer and author. She introduced energy healing to Dr. Mehmet Oz, working side by side with him in heart transplant surgery. She has taught workshops at Esalen, Kripaklu, Omega and lectured at Stanford, Columbia and Dartmouth medical schools. Her book, Hands Of Life, has been published in five languages. To read more about her work go to juliemotz.com and fourenergies.com
It is tempting to believe that if we had enough money we would finally feel safe and secure. But if this were an absolute truth rich people would never be paranoid - never worry that someone would take their money away from them or be interested in them only for their money. So what is the relationship between money and fear? Between money and love?
Some people worry constantly about money - how to make it, how to invest it, how best to spend it, whom to leave it to when they die.There are couples who fight about money all the time and parents who use money to both reward and control. People stay in all kinds of relationships, both personal and professional, because they believe they “can’t afford” to leave.
There are those who can’t bring themselves to ask for enough money for their services and then are resentful at being underpaid. Others overcharge or deliver less than what they’ve promised or underpay their taxes, feeling that they can survive only by cheating to keep more money for themselves.
We call money “currency” because it flows from person to person, continually transferring wealth. It is the energy of commerce. But how does this energy relate to the emotional energies that flow inside you and guide your life? In this course you’ll look at the web of emotions that governs your relationship to money. You’ll find the emotional clarity to make money an accessible tool for surviving and thriving, for self-expression and self-actualization.
These are some of the issues we’ll be covering:
How did your parents’ and your grandparents attitudes towards money shape your own?
Did you start off in life with the feeling that there would always be enough?
How would your life be changed if your financial situation were radically different?
What’s the worst mistake you ever made with money - and what caused you to make it?
What’s the connection between a desire for the things money can buy and how you relate to your body?
All sessions will be recorded and anyone taking the course is eligible for a one-hour private healing session at a reduced rate of $100.
WHEN - TB A
WHERE: Zoom online
COST: $160
For more information and to register email jamtoday@julimotz.com, call 415 256-2528 or text 415 342-1833